We always dream of unending, undying, unfading,… relationship but the truth is, we are not in the imaginary world rather, we are in the real/actual world where everything isn’t ideal.

As we go through life, we see that relationship is not as sweet as we read in our novel. We are hit with tough and rough patches/bruises and we have to make a tough decision or fight to keep what is ours, holding on dearly and not letting the precious gift slip of our fingers.

Most time it seems we should just give up and let it go but it is the time we need to stay strong, get all the encouragement we can and some advice to keep the flame of love burning.  

Here is some advice from different persons who were able to share their experience and what actually worked for them through Reddit.

  • Assessing yourself is very key.
A user of Reddit shares from her mother’s experience with selfishness and how she changed to being more selfless.
“When my mum and my dad were on their second separation, she was out with her best friend and was venting about all the things she wanted him to change.
“Her friend asked her ‘What are you willing to change about yourself?’ It made my mother think about how she negatively affected the marriage too and realize that if she wanted him to change things about himself, she needed to be willing to change things about herself and meet him halfway.”

Check if you are the one who is wrong

  • True romance is the small things that complement the big things
“Do the small things. Sometimes I definitely don’t want to get off the couch and help my wife with something, but I know she really appreciates it when I do,” another user says, before poetically adding the following words;
“Big things build the structure, little things fill in the gaps.”

Little things like gift matters.

  • Be selfless and always communicate.
According to a married lady, she said, “There are definitely times when my husband is telling me about a game or movie and I don’t want to listen but I always try to because it matters to him.”

Always give your partner a listening ears.

  • Always show it and not only saying it.
“I think the best relationship advice I have ever received is that you don’t have to always verbally comfort them and you can still let them know you care by just being there,” another user adds.

Be available whenever you are needed and do go out sometime
  • You can be old for other things but not romance
“Even if you’re married, never stop dating your spouse. Love is active,” someone shared before being backed up by another who said “don’t make it all about the children. They won’t be around forever, but the two of you will.”

If also you have applied some methods that indeed worked for you, please you feel free to share via the comment box so we could learn and spice up our relationship life.

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